How Simple It Is

For a couple of years I cared deeply about the discussion on gender. I actually had the folder to a Feminist group on my BUBBS desktop for easy access to the online "discussions" that went on there. I argued better and worse at times.

I have almost zero interest in the discussion any longer. Coincidentally, I now know much more about women, having been married for nearly three years. Which makes me wonder...is the giant gender discussion the result of too many angst filled single people?

I don't mean single people = angst filled. I have plenty of single friends that never understood my zeal towards that discussion. I have plenty of single friends that, though they care, never cared as much as I did about "figuring out" the "answer" to the question of genders and roles. What I am saying is that...I think, at least generally, one could postulate that those that engage in some of the ridiculous arguments that take place concerning the nature of the genders are working out not the larger question of meaning and roles for men and women, but rather the personal issues of relationships. Which supports a theory I had once considered...if most of the adamant militant feminists got married to chauvinists there would be a lot less fighting in the world today.

Sheri and I still talk about the differences between us. We still fight, we still don't always understand the other, and there is still mystery which I don't have answers for. But I have found, all the angst of the gender question dissolved with the arrival of matrimony. How simple it is...we were made for each other and its a beautiful thing to reflect upon.